![]() If you can use and channel your anger, it can make you feel stronger and more powerful, and push you towards a goal, to make changes in your environment, to achieve something. When did you have more energy, more motivation? Anger is a motivating force, a positive energy that pushes you to do something. Now think about a time when you felt angry about something. Think about a time when you felt sad about something. And controlled, constructive anger can be a force for development, for progress, for change. I’m not encouraging anyone to go out and be a full-blown rage monster for extended periods of time. But anger has a bad reputation, because anger gets stuff done. Anger is seen as unreasonable, unacceptable, something to hide.Īnger is arguably the most frowned upon, anti-social ‘negative’ emotion. We suppress, redirect and hide our anger to appear civilised and socially acceptable. So that’s emotions, let’s embrace them all. Once they’re acknowledged and experienced you can learn about them and yourself, identify and perhaps address the cause of them. Instead of denying any negative feelings, thoughts and emotions, we should value them, consider them with our knowledge, experiences and values.Įmotional acceptance gives us the ability to accept and experience negative emotions, to acknowledge them, to accept them and not waste energy pushing them away or burying them. ![]() Our true reactions, however we judge them are still our true reactions. We create a negative imbalance by trying to avoid negativity. It goes against how we naturally react and respond to our environments and interactions, and can cause us to be super vigilant with our inner feelings and inner dialogue, shutting off certain parts of ourselves. Going through life we all have challenges to face, things that make us uncomfortable, upset or cause us pain or anger, if we regularly choose to avoid feelings and the place, situations or people that cause them we increasingly lessen our coping skills over time.ĭenying ourselves the ability to experience any feelings that occur within ourselves naturally is a form of emotion-policing. When we focus on positive vibes only, we’re ignoring, burying or hiding the things that aren’t positive, or don’t make us feel good.īurying negative emotions and pushing ourselves to feel positive or ‘look on the bright side’ in the extreme cause something known as ‘emotional avoidance’, which is a main cause of many psychological problems(1).Įmotional avoidance may give us short term relief from experiencing, dealing with and moving on from that negative feeling, but are instead trading that in for more long-term pain. We are complex creatures who react to the world around us with emotions, thoughts and intelligence, to deny any ‘negative’ emotions is to deny a large portion of what makes us who we are. Sure, nobody really likes to spend too much time with a Negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer (side note: why are all these names female?) but humans are capable of a wide and varied range of emotions. In order to see their attitude change and sales increase, these employees need to be coached to help change their behavior and improve their performance.It sometimes feels like we’re living in a world of positivity, and declarations of #postivevibes only. Let them know how you, co-workers and their customers view them. ![]() Have employees take a long look in the mirror, let them decide if they want to make the choice to change their behavior and then come up with actions that will help them improve their problem areas. The mirror check is one way to accomplish this. Most people would rather support a company with a “Positive Polly” than a “Negative Nancy.” This means that the managers have a responsibility to help these employees improve their attitudes. More importantly, when it comes to sales and customer service, these types of people don’t just bring down the mood or company morale, they bring down the sales. ![]() The "Debbie Downer" type makes it hard to feel a sense of teamwork as nobody wants to work with that person and possibly run the risk of losing the employees with the positive attitude. Their negative attitude spreads throughout the workplace and brings down the mood. ![]() “Debbie Downer” or "Negative Nancy" or "Grumpy Greg" are all names we have heard describing people with a particular demeanor. You know the ones who are always complaining about everything or are just cranky all the time. We all have encountered them or know them. One of the most difficult may be dealing with an employee with a negative attitude. As a manager, you have many responsibilities and many tough tasks. ![]()
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